I’ll start “accepting Christans” when they get the fuck outta places they don’t belong and stop trying to convert people in poorer places to their faith. Jesus is not the answer to why they are in poverty. And I’ll start “accepting Christians” when every single Pray The Gay Away type of therapy stops forever and ever.
hey we’re friends so i’m not trying to start anything, but I’d like to offer my perspective! :)
I’m actually Christian pansexual! I’ve now had to leave five churches because I didn’t feel like I could express my beliefs and myself in the same building. So you are totally right. The homophobic epidemic is very real in the church, as it always has been. And it’s a very distressing, very opressive force that I personally have borne witness too. I can only say that I’m fortunate that I’ve only been attacked verbally, and never physically, so far. And it’s scary, and it’s painful, and it terrifies me every time I consider joining a new church. I’m familiar with the feeling of finding myself in a group full of seemingly funny, kind people that I can relate to, and realizing that they would never treat me with such courtesy if they really knew me.
So I could never pretend like this isn’t a problem. It affects my life every day. I still don’t know how to tell my mother that I’ve stopped going to church for the fifth time because I couldn’t handle the atmosphere. And I know that a lot of others have fared far worse than I ever have.
But the story doesn’t end there.
One of the first people who ever inspired me to be honest about my sexuality was a Christian homosexual friend of mine. He didn’t try to sugarcoat the situation, and he expressed the frustrations that I just expressed. He was living with another family, after coming out to his own family, who were not accepting of him. He found books and resources that honestly evaluated those sections of the Bible, and we explored that together.
I don’t have all the Christian answers. And I sure the fuck don’t know when I’m going back to church, or when I’ll be able to handle the dissappointment emotionally again.
But holding any group responsible for its biggest biggots is wrong. I can’t do anything about those people. Believe me, I wish I could! I wish I could change all their minds. Maybe then I could go back to church.
to everyone reading this: please stop assuming each and every one of us happens to be a caucasian, middle class, heterosexual, cisgendered, trans*phobic, homophobic douche. When you do that, you are the one who is painting an entire group of people with the same brush. And suddenly you are the ignorant one.
^dear gosh thank you very very much
So remember kids! Just because someone is Christian does not mean they’re an asshole.